Causes of Premarital Sex

There is no behavior without reason. We need to examine reasons why Christian youths do fall into the sins of fornication.

Please note that sexual relationship is divided into three, namely:

(a) Premarital sex (fornication)

(b) Pure (Holy or Legal) sex

(c) Extra – marital Sex (Adultery)

Premarital sex is what most youths engage in before marriage while extra-marital sex is what some married people indulges in, when they are not faithful to their partner. Pure, holy or legal sex is the only legitimate sex, it occurs between married couples. It is Holy and wonderful, God loves it and it brings purity. What we will be talking about here is premarital sex which the Bible calls fornication. It is not fun, it is not love-making but fornication. It is sin, I would have agreed if it is called lust making.

CAUSES

(1) Pressure: Pressure from parents, friends, peer group, lecturer, boss, future partners. Some men do mount pressure physically on their partners while some ladies mount pressure on their partners by dressing carelessly exposing their nakedness to seduce men. Some male bosses in places of work do mount pressure on their female workers, they want girls that can work for them and still satisfy them sexually.

(2) Curiosity: Many youths have engaged themselves in premarital sex as a result of curiosity. They thought they were searching for reality, but they ended up destroying themselves. They are not satisfied with what their parents, pastors and christian friends told them concerning sex, they want to experience it themselves.

(3) Electronic media: Television, film, radio and video has contributed to the high rate of premarital sex. What youths watch on screen determine their behaviour and character. Every product advertised on T.V. is just promoting sex. In fact, to advertise food items they use sex, film, television and radio promotes premarital sex. Most home videos are sex promoters.

(4) Books and Magazines: Some satanic authors are in town destroying the youths, they write some sexual stories, books and magazines, they bring out many pictures that stimulate the youth to think about sex always. Having read all these books, youths do become restless until they have put into practice what they learned in the books and magazines.

(5) Environmental influence: We live in a corrupt society where people do not see anything bad in ungodliness they do not see premarital sex as sin; they see it as a normal thing. Hence, girls are encouraged to dress exposing their bodies. Premarital sex has become the norm of the society. Some Christian youths find it difficult to cope in this kind of environment; hence, they fall into this ungodly act.

(6) Covetousness: Greed for money, wealth and position is another cause of premarital sex. Some ladies want money at all costs hence they are ready to use their bodies to get it by sleeping around with men.

(7) Indiscipline: Lack of discipline has led many singles into the dungeon of premarital sex.

(8) Wrong association: This has led many youth into destruction. Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.

(9) Ignorance: Lack of good sex education has led many youth into premarital sex, some went into it not knowing what they were doing.

(10) Wrong information: Since parents have refused to educate their children on the subject and the church is not forth coming with anything meaningful, the youth have resorted to any information they can get from anywhere either wrong or right.

(11) Bad parenting: Children that are not well brought up are likely to fall into wrong hands.

(12) Idleness: An idle hand is the devil’s workshop. If you are idle, you may cuddle the devil.

(13) Loneliness: Some claim they went into fornication due to loneliness.

(14) Broken homes: Children from broken homes can fall into wrong hands due to the situation of their homes.

Sex Life During Pregnancy Can Still Be Good

It’s not unusual for a woman to feel ashamed to talk about having sex during pregnancy, with her doctor or friends. Having sexual intimacy and being pregnant shouldn’t make any woman feel unnatural. In order to help you discover more about this sensitive topic, we’ve put together some fundamental answers to commonly asked questions about sexual intercourse and pregnancy.

Let’s cover the matter that all woman having their first newborn would like the answer to. Is sexual intimacy during maternity harmless?

For most women who experience a common pregnancy, free of complications, having sex during this time is completely safe. First of all, the baby is safe by the amniotic sac. The amniotic sac grows and starts to fill, mainly with water, around two weeks after fertilization. The mucus plug actually seals the cervix. In fact, if there are no medical reasons or abnormal problems, you can continue to have sexual intimacy right up until your water breaks. It may not be harmless to have sex when there are any abnormal problems present already, that will adversely affect the baby. A dilated cervix, placenta previa, cervical insufficiency, vaginal bleeding, emission, early labour, or abdominal cramping may all be reasons why a doctor would advise against sex during pregnancy. If you’re unsure about whether or not you can have sexual relations during your pregnancy, just ask your health care provider, nurse or midwife.

Is There Any Type Of Sex I Should Avoid During Pregnancy?

Unless you’ve been told by your personal doctor or midwife that you should avoid sex, you can probably continue your sexual intercourse life normally. There are a couple noteworthy exceptions. The first exclusion would apply if you agree to oral sex from your partner. Tell him not to blow into your vagina. The damaging effect to you or your baby could be an air embolism. This could affect you or just your baby. The other understandable reason of concern is unprotected sexual intimacy with a partner you are not certain, is free from sexually transmitted infections. If you’re not sure your partner has no STIs, then you should always use a condom or abstain from sexual acts altogether. STDs can affect you and your baby, so having sex during pregnancy is too risky to take a chance.

Does Having A Complication Mean Absolutely No sexual relations During Pregnancy?

First off, by no means be afraid to confront your doctor about this question. If you’ve been told that you should refrain from sexual intimacy during pregnancy, ask him to be more specific. Is it really necessary? Does it encompass all intimate acts? Is the health care provider talking about sexual intimacy or just about the effect of an orgasm? Discovering accurately what is allowed and not allowed, will help you feel more relaxed about sex, while you’re pregnant.

Will My Desire For Sex Change During Pregnancy?

Your sex drive may change during pregnancy. Nausea, fatigue and being uncomfortable will unquestionably reduce your desire for sex. Many times though, there’s a feeling of total freedom and a renewed intimacy since there is no worry about getting pregnant anymore. At the same time, your partner’s sex drive may be increasing or decreasing by the pregnancy, so be sure to communicate effectively with him about how you both feel.

Will Different Positions Make Sex More Comfortable For Me During Pregnancy?

Changing sex positions can make you more comfortable during pregnancy. The position of sexual intercourse that was comfortable before pregnancy, is many times no longer comfy while being pregnant. Sometimes a woman never really finds the position where they’re really well-situated, and prefers to have sex by manual stimulation or oral sex.

Will sexual intercourse Feel Different For Me During Pregnancy?

Sex may feel different for you when you’re pregnant. It may feel much better than normal or much less comfortable than before you were pregnant. Another change that you’ll notice, is, your breasts and genitals may become enlarged and more sensitive than before you were pregnant. For some women this leads to a much more pleasurable sensation during sex, but others may experience being more uncomfortable. If you are no longer enjoying sexual intercourse, experiment with your mate to find new ways to love each other.

Is There A Time Up To, That I Can proceed To Have Sex During A Pregnancy?

If you have no pre-existing stipulation and nothing your doctor has restricted you from sexual relations about, there is no reason not to have sex until your water breaks. Having sexual intercourse, that leads to having an orgasm, can often bring on labour. So feel free to have a lot of sexual intimacy with your spouse, right up to the time you have your baby.

Sex during pregnancy can be an embarrassing topic for some women, but there’s no reason to ever feel shameful about finding out how to protect yourself, your baby, and your partner during this time. For more information about your sex life during pregnancy talk to your GP, midwife or contact a branch of the National Childbirth Trust.

Indian Sex Psyche in a Digital Native Society

A 15-minute clip from Ina, a 1982 Malayalam film by popular director I.V. Sasi that deals with youthful lust and child marriage, is the most viewed Indian video on YouTube. It has more than 117 million views, and it appears to be the only Indian video to have more than a 100 million YouTube views.

Ina was a trendsetting movie which received many positive reviews during a time when even talking about sex was considered as a taboo in Kerala. Many parents of the 80’s were reluctant to send their kids to watch this movie as they thought it would corrupt their children. “My mom was an adherent moviegoer. She never stopped us from watching movies, but when Ina released, she was so unyielding to our requests and every time she came up with some kind of excuse. Only later in our life did we understand the real cause of her worry” says Jayasree who is now 50.

But what makes the movie so popular on the YouTube four decades after its release? Why are the other classics of Padmarajan and Bharathan not among the list of top ten most viewed video on YouTube? And the bigger question is why only 15 minutes not the whole movie getting the maximum hits? The answer is hidden inside the top ten Malayalam videos on YouTube; they are all Blue Films.

The case of other language videos is not different, they all feature similar keywords like Sex, Hot and Masala.

This reminds me of a case where three Ministers from Karnataka were expelled from the Legislative Assembly after the CCTV footage caught them watching pornography while the assembly proceedings were in full swing. Interestingly one of them handled the portfolio of Women and Child Development Ministry. When Google India released the report of the most searched personality of 2013 in last December, the Indo-Canadian former pornographic actress Sunny Leone was way ahead of Shah Rukh Kahan and Sachin Tendulkar. The Google trends report shows that the volume of search for the term “porn” has more than doubled since 2010 – 2013. These reports indicate that porn is freely available to anyone in India who has access to internet, regardless to their sex and age.

The writing on the wall is so clear; the number of people who are becoming addicts of pornographic videos and the increase in cases related to sexual abuse in India are in a proportionally high level.

New technology in the hands of the young, who uses it irresponsibly, could lead to a catastrophe. The new generation (which the techies call as the “digital natives”), are less guided by their parents and teachers (tagged as digital immigrants) as they are less informed about the new world of gadgetry. Teens have an inquisitive mind, which is controlled by peer pressure. But when pornography becomes their answer for sexual inquisitiveness, they become perverts. MMS Porn videos of students, circulating in schools in Kerala have been reported many times by the media. In some cases the victims have even went to the extent of committing suicide. According to a study conducted on 1000 students of both sex, 47% of high school boys and 29% of high school girls talk about porn in their classrooms.

What is more startling is the kind of videos the young prefer to watch. According to webmaster report of a website, the keywords searched for entering a porn site has changed over the last few years. A few years back people used short keywords like Rape, penetration, oral, anal, lesbian, gay etc. to make their porn search, but now the terms have become more violent and inhuman, with the user searching for what exactly he/she needs.

In India watching porn is considered legal but distributing or publishing pornographic content is considered as a crime under laws laid down in Sec.292 of the Indian Penal Code, which came about by Act 36 of 2000. According to Alexa Ranking of top 500 Indian Website 24 are porn sites. The legal machinery in India has failed to take action against these sites that even publish child pornography. A report of Optenet says, 40% of the web is made up of pornographic sites. As the WWW is open to all, including teens to consume porn materials, these sites are just a click away from reaching them. The search for these sites begins with simple googling of their peer doubts, which can be answered if they are given proper awareness in schools.

A few years back when the Government of Kerala introduced Adolescent Education Programme on the recommendation of UNESCO there was stiff opposition from the church saying the programme will lead to “sexual anarchy” in the state. The programme was intended to give awareness about sexuality and sexually transmitted diseases to class IX and class XI students of more than 4,000 high schools and higher secondary schools. Due to controversies the programme didn’t took off in Kerala. The same happened in the states of Karnataka, Gujarat, Maharashtra and Madhya Pradesh. But Tamil Nadu implemented this programme long back in 1997 and it has been proved successful.

India lacks Sex education; this is a fact which is overlooked during discussions on fighting rape and other cases of sexual abuse. Rather than fighting for a law to castrate the rapist or to hang him, the discussions should extend to a broader platform were in we can put a cap on the root so that further growth is restricted for ever. Moreover sex education in schools will also reduce the number of HIV cases in India. According to Government reports 40% of the total HIV affected people are under the age group of 15-29.

An Indian American News Website reported the trend of watching pornographic videos is synonymous to all states in India but higher in the state of Kerala, which boasts about the high literacy rate.

The YouTube videos and their counts is a direct reflection of the sexually frustrated Indian youth. If this trend continuous for a long time the result would be a million youth with unusual behaviour. As a country which boasts about its youth as the way forward in achieving global leadership, Indian government should take Sex Education seriously at the earliest.